How to please a gay man

The &#;how to&#; of sex positions is imperative for any partnership. Mastering different gay sex positions not only heightens the trial but also provides a deeper connection with your partner both literally and figuratively. But before we start, if you&#;ve ever wondered, &#;What&#;s a top or bottom?&#; Don&#;t worry. These terms might be common within the LGBTQ+ community, but not everyday vernacular for everyone else, which is why we&#;ve put together an ever-growing list of Diverse terminology.

At Bespoke Surgical, we consider about sex in completely other ways and by bringing science into sex, a new era of understanding will allow improvement for everyone. Regardless of which gay anal sex positions you explore, itâ€&#x;s important to comprehend their differences:

  • Affect the top and the bottom in different ways
  • Bring out both submissive or violent characteristics of each person
  • Require an understanding of both everyone&#;s positioning (height, penis curvature, and pelvic angle)

Little nuances and adjustments can make all the difference in terms of pleasure vs.

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Experimenting with fresh sex positions is an easy way to make things more interesting in the bedroom. 

In proof, studies show that long-term couples who try out modern sex positions are more likely to feel satisfied and passionate in their sex lives. 

And if you and your partner both own penises, there are plenty of options you can attempt to switch up your usual routine.

Here are five sex positions that can maximize your pleasure and spice up your sex life.

1. Lotus

Step-by-step: 

  1. Sit with your knees bent out to the sides and the bottoms of your feet touching, much enjoy a butterfly position in yoga. 
  2. Your spouse will then slouch in your lap, facing you, and wrap their legs around your support. It's important to note that your partner will desire to sit secure enough that you can reach their anus for penetration.

When you're in this position, "it's cooperative to have the top person put a rhythm for thrusting since they have more ability to tilt their hips back and forth," says Sari Cooper, LC

The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.

I’m scared of bottoming

Most gay men will think about bottoming at some moment. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off. 

You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse compete like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can receive douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.

Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do employ amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:

  • have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission 
  • don’t mix with erection drugs favor Viagra and may bring about a heart attack.

Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.

Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvat

Tease him to please him

10 tips for pleasing a man

Written by Jennifer Hanson


So, you’ve gotten over the initial getting-to-know-him phase and are ready to bounce into some sexual forays. Or maybe you’ve been with him for a while and just require to brush up on other ways to please your man. This mentor has all you demand no matter where you’re at.

First things first: building trust

When it comes to intimacy, it is common for men to not be as expose or experienced in dealing with their feelingsas women are. One way to get around this is to be open about your feelings with him, and be supportive when he confides something he might be self-conscious about. For example, only about 55% of men are satisfied with their penis size,1so starting out with this level of certainty can bring both of you together and build it easier to please your man. Both of you know you can be candid with each other without judgment, and this in itself can lead to being more adventurous together.

It takes two to tango


This may not come as a surprise, but sex is about both of you! It is also a reflection of bo