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Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to male lover guys
Unread postby Sam W »
Got it, so it does sound fancy a big part of this simply has to execute with a certain type of guy (but not the only type of guy) you discover attractive.
When you want to be a guy in those moments, what is it, specifically, that you want? Is it to be competent to engage in certain things sexually? To have a certain role in a sexual dynamic? Something else? And when you speak this happens when you see adorable gay guys in your surroundings, are those guys who you know are gay, or who look a certain way?
With fetishizing or objectifying people, that depends on whether you watch these guys as individual, unique humans or more as a blank slate that you can project your desires onto. It's also sound to ponder about what's attracting you to them and how much of it might be based on stereotypes about that specific group (it might be the case that none of it is) rather than the realities of that individual person.
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